This meditation guide can kill your anxiety, help you connect with people and make you feel like you can take on anything — especially if you talk to yourself in your head a lot.
I’d starting meditating daily 2 months earlier.
WTF meditation?!
Check out by Comfort Pit. Seriously, read it now. It lists 26 scientifically proven superhuman benefits of meditation. I tasted a few.
My superhuman high lasted for a whole month. Then somehow I lost it and went back to my usual sometimes-anxious self. The benefits were more sporadic after that.
I’d kept meditating for 20 minutes daily but often struggled to hit the superhuman state.
I thought there was something wrong with my method, so I tried everything:
Each new thing worked for a while, then it stopped working. My mind got distracted and I beat myself up over it.
Other meditators have told me they’ve gone through a similar frustration phase. I think it’s because I was TRYING to feel superhuman. I was focused on an outcome instead of just being aware of what was happening in the moment.
It still worked sometimes, though. And I had a handful of crazy-awesome experiences that I still can’t explain.
A few times while meditating I felt an earth-shattering, whole-body orgasm build up in my spine: heart racing, heavy breathing, whole body tingling. It felt like my universe was going to explode. I chickened out and it fizzled out. If anyone can explain to me what the hell was going on, I’m ALL ears. And no, I didn’t touch myself.
Anyway I’d had a taste of the superhuman state and I’ve been meditating for 4 years since.
Here’s why it works.
Your conscious mind has 2 settings:
1) Aware; 2) Autopilot.
Daniel Kahneman refers to them as System 2 and System 1 in . A good book that helps you make sense of your world and not screw it up.
If you don’t have a mindfulness practice (like meditation) you’re probably on autopilot most of the time. You’ve probably only caught glimpses of ‘aware’ while playing sport, drawing, reading… activities where your worries fade away.
Your autopilot settings are built on emotions (not logic) from past experiences. If something feels good your autopilot learns to want more. If something feels bad your autopilot learns to avoid it. That’s why you can’t seem to stick to an exercise program, or stop yourself from finishing the bucket of ice-cream.
Your autopilot isn’t deliberately working against you, it just values the feeling of a face-full of ice-cream more than the feeling of being healthy.
You can’t change your autopilot thinking when you’re on ‘autopilot’. You CAN change it from your ‘aware’ setting.
First you have to get out of ‘autopilot’… through meditation.
How many slow, deep in-and-out breaths can you count before you get distracted by a random autopilot thought? 10 would be impressive. You’ll probably struggle to get 5. Whatever that count is, that’s how long you can stay ‘aware’.
Meditation lets you extend that awareness to 10, 15, 20 minutes, even hours. That might be hard to believe because you’ve always been on autopilot, like the rest of us. The good news is you can train your mind just like going to the gym.
, just like your muscles at the gym. It’s not magic. You’re just training the muscle of “learning how to pay attention”.
Even Arnold Schwarzenegger trained this muscle. He says meditation fundamentally changed his life. He used it to kill anxiety, focus more, calm down… and look at just some of his credentials:
When you expand your awareness through meditation you loosen your autopilot’s control over you. You notice its neurotic thoughts and can choose how you react to them. You get access to hidden processes that you didn’t realise were running in the background.
You become an immovable rock in a river. Your thoughts swim over you but do not stop unless you choose to stop them.
This might all be hard to imagine, because it’s hard to explain if you haven’t experienced it.
Just know this: extending your awareness to even 1-2 minutes will have a huge impact on your life. It’ll give you taste of superhuman.
Imagine approaching a hot girl or guy at a bar.
Autopilot setting: “What the hell are you doing?! You’re going to say something stupid. She’ll hate you. Don’t do it!” Aware setting: My heart is racing (just noticing).
You don’t chicken out when you’re in ‘aware’ mode. You’re calmer because you’re not judging yourself. Your head is clear and your words flow.
Here’s a more extreme example – .
Autopilot setting: “Ouch, this hurts! I need to do something about this!! Scream, maybe?” Aware setting: There is pain (just noticing).
He never moved a muscle. Never uttered a sound. Imagine that kind of self-control. His mind must have been a peaceful place.
There are many different ways, but I think this is the easiest to start with.
I’ve also just discovered this new brain-sensing meditation headband. It basically reads your brain activity and tells you in real-time whether you’re doing it right. You get immediate feedback that shows you how calm your brain is. Pretty useful for figuring out what works best for you.
(FYI I get paid for recommending this.)
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